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Medium | Writing | Snark | Emotions

But not surprising

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Yes, Medium your email felt like a big F*** you to your writers.

I got the following email from Medium. If you've read any of my recent articles I quit being a paid member because of all the issues I was seeing on this platform. One major one was that you get fewer reads and therefore less money. Since I quit I still get paid but I just don't read much anymore because I'm a free member — and also, the quality of the articles was rapidly deteriorating except for the few writers that I liked. …

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I did what I said I’d do

Your membership has been cancelled

You asked me why I was canceling and I sent you a link to this article — which I assume you never read.

And since I wrote that article, I am still getting so many bot accounts following me that I can only assume you are leaving the bots in your system to prove to people how many millions of readers you have.

As if those bots read anything.

The few who actually have posts on their pages are all sales links.

I am disappointed that you have been leaving the bots in your…

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Medium | Writing | Kvetching

I’ve lost interest in you

Psychology | Dreams | Self | Mindfulness

and what are you doing in my dream?

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Who are you?

What are you doing in my dreams?

What do you mean?

Actually, do you have any meaning?

If you do mean something, how will I know?

And then — what am I supposed to do about you?

Many questions.

Many thoughts.

Many answers.

Many interpretations.

Psychology | Motivation | Business | Mental Health

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I have often said I go into hibernation from about Thanksgiving until my birthday, which is near the end of January.

In retrospect, I think my hibernation started in early November with the election. It was high stress, getting dark out early, and light out late, plus all the political events that were like watching the train wreck that I could not take my eyes off.

Around inauguration day, I decided that there was no point in trying to do very much in January. I thought I’ll just let the month go on and not try to focus on anything in the way of writing or teaching — or anything-ing until February. It just seemed to my brain that January had…

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Psychology | Relationships | Politics

be very careful…

I worked with women who were in abusive relationships when I was a therapist. I have taught courses on domestic and child abuse. I also worked in the field of child abuse — both as a psychologist and as an attorney.

The one thing I learned from reading, taking courses, attending seminars, and working with abused people is that when the abused decides to leave the relationship — that is the most dangerous point. It is when most of the abused are killed.

Abusers do not like their victims to leave them.

This is one reason why…

Bio | Psychology | Self


selfie on a windy day

A bit of an intro to moi — and I’ll keep it short as I have lived a long time, and done a lot of stuff.

Born, raised, and educated in New York City — and yes, since you ask, I still sound like one of “those” New Yorkers. I got a great free education at Queens College thanks to “socialism.” I left New York for Boston “only” to get my Ph.D. as I had every intention of returning and living there for the rest of my life. But I fell in love with Boston and outdoor activities, and…

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politics | snark | elections 2020


A certain American politician, whom I’ll call Donnie Boy [I do not write his full name] has told us he and his wife have tested positive for the Coronavirus and will be quarantined at the White House. This came after the announcement that Hope Hicks, a regular presence in his entourage, tested positive.

Did any of this come as a surprise to me?

Nope — and here are 4 quick reasons why I think this is a lie.

Psychology | Self | Learning

And my “me” solution

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I have been pondering “what is it with me” as I read through emails about the “once-in-a-lifetime-you’ll-learn-so-much-from-these-experts-over-3-days-one-week-one-month-challenges-webinars-summits.”

I read the emails and I begin to think: “I feel I am missing something — maybe I ought to sign up.”

Lynn Dorman, Ph.D.; J.D.

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