Psychology | Mental Health | Lifestyle | Loners
On Being Alone
no — it does not make you lonely
It’s late December and I see so many posts asking “Will you be alone on December 25th?” I think it’s neat for people to offer to open their homes, run online meets, and do things to create a community for those who want one — or who do not want to be alone during this particular holiday period.
But — we have created a culture where we have made people feel bad because they are alone. There are many holidays in November, December, and January — you can't be with somebody for every second of every one of them — but according to life these days, you must be with someone during some “holiday period.” Frankly, many people do not celebrate any of these holidays. It's a time of the year when there is one religion that has a major holiday, and the stores recognize it, but there are many who don't “do” this holiday.
Some online invites say hey — I'm running this open group from 12 to 2 or 2 to 4 on X date —if you want to join.
That's a nice way of putting it. No pressure — no mention of being alone.
Others make it sound like you should not want to be alone — so come to my group between 12 and 2 and/or 2 to 4.
